Sunday, September 27, 2009

I Dowan

The little boy is getting really rebellious these days. Every day, he makes life difficult for me. He no longer obeys when I ask him to do something (keep his toys, bathe, brush teeth, etc). The only thing he'll be very fast to respond is when I say it's time to play games. He'll immediately change the tv channel and switch on the Wii console. :-|

I go through these on a daily basis (almost) :
* When asked to bathe ~ I dowan to bathe. I want to be stinky boy.

* When it's time to brush teeth ~ I dowan to brush teeth. I want my teeth be broken. or I want my mouth be stinky.
I managed to resolve these two protests by introducing 'stinky' soap and 'stinky' toothpaste. :-D Since he wanted to be stinky, I told him I'll use 'stinky' soap/toothpaste. However, this trick worked for a few days only.

* During meal times at home ~ I dowan to eat. I want my stomach be pain pain.
Don't know where he got this idea. I've only told him if he eats with dirty hands, the germs will cause stomachache. Luckily he doesn't fuss anymore (most of the time) once he starts eating.

* During naptime or bedtime ~ I dowan to sleep. Don't off the lights. I want to read books.
Jie jie says the same thing too. Actually reading is just an excuse. He'll choose his book(s). Then leave them on the bed and continue to play with jie jie. Sometimes he does flip through it, for a short while. Then continue playing again.

So how to manage him?
* Sweet-talking ~ ask him nicely, praise him for being a good boy (rarely works).
* Rewarding him ~ with snacks, games, favourite clothes.
* Threatening him ~ no tv, no games, no smelling mummy to sleep.
* Faking a cry ~ who? ME! Tell him I'm sad, make the "huhuhu sob sob sob" sound, he will obediently do as asked.
* Scolding and using the cane ~ when we raise our voice or wave the cane in front of him, especially PaPa, he will quickly budge.

However, all these doesn't work all the time, except using the cane. *nyek nyek nyek* What worked today, may not work tomorrow. So every time I've to try the different methods and when all else fails, wave the cane. :-D


Peridot&Sapphire said...

haha... cane sure work but En En alrady start crying even when I raise my voice... haii...

wenn said...

cane is painful la..

SJ said...

i haven seen parents faking a cry b4. haha

From me to you, suejean =)

Denesa said...

haha..parents go through this stage of frustrations with our kids. My 10 year old boy also prefer to finish off whatever he is doing at the moment before he will barge to bathe, sleep or eat. Luckily, he listens to me when I get upset. Different kids might need a different approach to cooperate. However, never allow our kids to have upper hand over us.

Mummy Gwen said...

I sometimes also threaten Gwen with the cane..hehe. Somehow the cane sure work its magic. :P

Bryan and Brandon's Mama said...

Bryan is exactly the same!! Think they finally undertand that their future is their own destiny!!Good for them, BAD for us mothers!!! I struggle everyday to get him to do everything *sigh*

reanaclaire said...

hehe..i like the faking cry bit.. i think i have done that before.. they r scared to see grown up cry.. i remember my girl or my boy quickly jumped into my arms... hahaha.. i think that works.. so bad of me..

Irene said...

cane works the best! we din hit them wat, correct or not... threaten to only. hehee.. bad bad mommy!

my cousin lagi terer, when her boys noty rite, she will tell them...
"when you both get home, i let you choose wat color you want ok?"... her boys terus behave! wat color u know, color the multiply canes she has! wakkakakakka!

Fussy mum said...

haha...I've been thru all these with my gal and I AM still going thru it now. Yes, waving the cane is the best method for me too ;)

andrewjune said...

i know how difficult it is to deal with a cheeky child...i'm having troubles dealing one here as well.
i've NOT intro the cane yet...but i think i'm going to intro it very very very soon!

p/s : as per your request, i've posted some photos of Hard Rock's pool, so feel free to check it out when you're free!

wen said...

i wld pretend to stomp off to find my cane. if i find it, then i will show the cane to them..
not easy to be a parent hor

Health Freak Mommy said...

I know how frustrating this is. For my #2, the only way that works is the cane :(

Oliveoylz said...

Can't live without the cane as a threatening tool...and ice cream+nuts+sprinkles as a reward...he he. Works most of the time. "no smelling mummy to sleep?" ha ha. Now, that's funny:)

Mummy In Vain said...

Once I wave my cane, everything will be done unwillingly....but my son has challenged me once that he rather accept whips to determine what he doesn't want to do! Walau!!!!

Mummy Moon said...

Woh, he is so degil now? Sometimes the cane is a magic stick hehe! But also not work all the time..

BabyBooned said...

urgh... gibran is also down this path already. sometimes i just cant help but scrrream. so i dont blame u for using the cane!!

Cheffie-Mom said...

I'm sorry you are having a hard time. My advice -keep encouraging and praising the good behavior. Blessings and hugs.

LittleLamb said...

ya i started the cane. but still its based on their mood. not easy ...just challenging.

Dora said...

yeah it's frustrating somehow...but glad that he is using his mind every second! Mummy's wisdom is tested too huh!

Lovely Mummy said...

i dont have cane at home. I will shout out I will go buy cane, then my boy start to scare.

Angeline said...

Mommy, I think you know my parenting style pretty well... cane is a definite no-no for me...
I'm just curious, do you only 'wave' the cane (in the air) or does it really hit the skin of the little one?

slavemom said...

Sharine, good mah, at least she's scared of u. My boy sometimes jes ignore me. :(

Wenn, prob is, sometimes they're not even bothered abt the pain.

SJ, it means u've been a vy vy good girl. ;)

Denesa, yup, diff approach for diff kids. And the same approach may not even work on the same kid all the time. We're forced to be creative. hehehe

Mummy Gwen, but it wudn't work its magic if used too often. :(

Paik Ling, *sigh sigh sigh*

Claire, I like this trick too. Feel so loved when they care abt our feelings.

Irene, good idea! I think I'll start coloring them. hohoho

Fussy mum, not jes the boy, my girl oso 'needs' the cane sometimes. *haih*

June, thx for the pics!

Wen, yeap, not ez at all.

Shireen, really sad when we've to rely on the cane ya.

Olive, he NEEDS to smell my hair/head during bedtime. So it's quite a good threat, sometimes. hahaha

Jacelyn, wow! So wat did u do?

Bee Moon, with kids, nothing works ALL the time.

BabyBooned, I don't even want to know wat the neighbours think of that mad woman next door. hahaha

Debbie, thx!

Rachel, yup... when they're in a good mood, they're like angels. When they feel like torturing us, can really drive us up the wall.

Dora, enjoy their bb moments b4 they start having a mind of their own. :D

Shirley, Marcus is such a good boy.

Angeline, sad to say, they do get whacked once in awhile. Really cannot stand it when they don't take me seriously. :(

Hazel said...

Nelson also the same. I am wondering why they must force their mom to use cane..i can't "tahan" also sometimes

Priscilla said...

Hahahaha... like your stinky soap and toothpaste! Love your blog!!

giddy tigress said...

It's just the way toddlers else will they assert their individuality? :)

jacss said...

i like d way u pretend to cry-cry, hahaha....can't imagine that!!
it's ok to be that way coz he's a not to be freaked out with another boy?? and how to spare the rod u tell me?? it works best for me :P

slavemom said...

Hazel, they r really testing our patience.

Priscilla, hope to c u here more often. :)

Joyce, a +ve way of looking at it. ;)

Jac, cane is some mothers best fren. hehehe

bp said...

i can identify with how trying this can be on our patience... and seems that the older they get, they have all kinds of excuses. remember how they used to be so much more enthusiastic? but slavemom's got her bag of tricks... and we just keep trying, yah.